Adoption Prayers

Aria is 3 .8 years old, and since we first brought her home we have told her her adoption story. We have not left out any of the details on the advice of our social worker. That way, she never feels that we are holding information from her.

We try to put all the events in a positive light regarding her abandonment and time in the orphanage as much as possible, and choose to focus on God's plan for her life.

I have not, however, yet used the term birth mother with her. I am not at all afraid of using it for me, but because she is a very literal child, I think it would bring confusion to her to think she had another mommy, in the way she thinks of me. And so, I use the term *some one's tummy* or *the man and woman who could not keep you.*

Anyway, we were driving in the car last week, and she said, right out of the blue, "Mommy, do you know the name of the people in China that could not keep me?"

"No, honey, I am so sorry but we don't know their names."

" Well mommy, do you think God knows their names?"

Wiping a tear from my eye, I responded: " Sweetie, I know God knows their names and we can pray for them, because He will know exactly who we are talking about."

Wow.

What a question coming from my sweet little one!

Most of the time, I honestly don't think of their birth parents all that often. They are our girls, and my daughters. I guess I selfishly forget that I share these beautiful children with people I will never have the privilege to meet. Who, because of their courage to place my girls where they would be found, have gifted my family with these 2 precious treasures.


I KNOW that this was God's plan for their lives. We instill that in them daily..

...But somewhere in China, there are 2 birth mothers, and 2 birth fathers who will never hear them giggle in glee, never have their little arms wrapped tightly around their neck, and never hear them whisper, " I wuuuuvvvv you mommy!" each night.

And I will pray for them. Because God knows their names.

Thank you sweet Aria for that reminder!

Comments

  1. La Dolce VitaMarch 3, 2008 at 1:10 PM

    What a sweet conversation and post. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. The Straight'sMarch 4, 2008 at 9:36 PM

    Thanks for sharing the story and yes bringing a tear to my eye as well. I agree with you so much about God's plan for these children. I am so thankful that I am a part of his plan. What a beautiful post.

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  3. laurieMarch 7, 2008 at 10:36 PM

    What a great reminder. I also find myself not focusing on what my daughters precious birth family is missing our on. What a gift they have given to me. Thanks for sharing.

    Laurie
    www.our2littleladies.blogspot.com

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  4. HennHouseMarch 10, 2008 at 7:48 PM

    So wonderful.

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  5. da hallsMarch 20, 2008 at 1:31 AM

    That is so very precious. Thank you for sharing.

    I found my way over here via the hennhouse.

    My husband and I have adopted 3 (from the foster system) and I myself am adopted so I get very excited to see other people's blogs who have adopted as well.

    80)
    Mary Beth

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