No, I'm not dead.
I just deleted my Face- Book.
(GASP!)
I know, heavy, heavy stuff.
And because I have SO MUCH more free time, I thought I'd give you my thoughts on the matter, in random order.
I'm sure you're thrilled.
1) It is mostly a waste of time. Who cares that you just got back from the grocery store? That your cat barfed on the floor? That your sports team just won/lost? I mean really. But like a trashy TV show, I feel compelled to read those statuses and then wonder why the heck I wasted the time.
2) The geo-tracking thingy is a little scary. You can state where you are, OR your friend can state where you all are and tag you, and someone can click "Get directions" and come find you. Now that is not one of my reasons for deleting, but it is a little disconcerting.
3) And to add to #2, who the heck cares that you are at Costco? But my feed was wasted with stuff like that ALL.THE. TIME. It seems a little arrogant to me to think anyone cares where I am.
4) Whiney statuses.Complaining statuses. Attention-getting statuses. "I love my son/daughter/dog/goat" statuses. "I bet 10 people aren't brave enough to put this cause on their status" statuses.
Nuff said.
5) I have a few people who love me who said that FB's motto is: " Breach security first and apologize when you get caught." That no matter how private you make your account, it is never truly private. These people are "in the know" so I trust their concern. These people strongly recommended I delete my account.
6) People's feelings are bound to get hurt. I know I won't get invited to everything, and honestly right now I'm too busy to care, but seeing pictures of all your child's friends at a party that your child didn't get invited to can bring out the Mama Bear. And it's just not worth sinning over.
7) It's a waste of time. I know, I said it already, but seriously. I jump on for a quick second and spend an hour looking at photos, trying to find friends I grew up with, etc. I have to say that I have way more important things to do for an hour that would be more productive.
8) I feel guilty. I don't get on much, and when I do, I've missed 4 emails, several friends birthdays and people who wrote on my wall. I wonder if those friends think I don't care because I didn't leave a birthday message or responded to their posts on my wall. It stresses me out. I hate being rude, and to me it comes off as rude.
9) I know that I will miss the convenience of it all, but it's NOT REALLY a connection with people. I have tried to keep my friends list down to those I am really friends with, but we all have people we used to know, those we don't want to hurt their feelings so we accepted their friend requests, or those we have deleted and they found out so your re-friended them. It gets alittle very political, and I am SO NOT that person. I have many people who asked to be my friend and have never said a word to me, nor I to them.
So what's the point?
10) It's depressing. Seeing people post "their drunk as a skunk pictures from the drinkfest they had" and then use their status to quote scriptures makes my heart hurt. Don't get me wrong- we ALL struggle with sin. I am the biggest sinner myself. But it seems many people seem to want to live two totally different ways on FB. I am really not trying to be judgemental here, honestly I'm not. It really saddens me to see people living dual lives that I once knew to be sold out in their faith.
11) Does it remind anyone of Junior High School, or is that just me?
12) It's the anti-Christ. Haha... Just checking to see if you made it to the end of my rant.
So, I am using my free time to READ more, PRAY more, and even starting a homework intensive Bible study that I never seemed to have enough time for.
Sooo, who's cool enough to join the trend? Anyone at all?
If so, we can start a book club, or GASP, talk on the phone or something ridiculously personal like that.
I know, I know... never gonna happen.
P.S. I will miss many aspects of FB, don't get me wrong. I love some of the friends that I only met through my adoption groups who are a BLESSING. I have reconnected with old friends and loved seeing their family pictures.I liked the convenience of feeling I was a part of lots of friends at a click of a button.It was a useful way for our church ladies to encourage each other or swap coupons. I am really purposing to continue those friendships through email and phone calls.
P.S.S. If you want to keep in contact with me, and don't have my email, just leave me a message here with your email (I won't post your comment) and I'll email it to you.
(GASP!)
I know, heavy, heavy stuff.
And because I have SO MUCH more free time, I thought I'd give you my thoughts on the matter, in random order.
I'm sure you're thrilled.
1) It is mostly a waste of time. Who cares that you just got back from the grocery store? That your cat barfed on the floor? That your sports team just won/lost? I mean really. But like a trashy TV show, I feel compelled to read those statuses and then wonder why the heck I wasted the time.
2) The geo-tracking thingy is a little scary. You can state where you are, OR your friend can state where you all are and tag you, and someone can click "Get directions" and come find you. Now that is not one of my reasons for deleting, but it is a little disconcerting.
3) And to add to #2, who the heck cares that you are at Costco? But my feed was wasted with stuff like that ALL.THE. TIME. It seems a little arrogant to me to think anyone cares where I am.
4) Whiney statuses.Complaining statuses. Attention-getting statuses. "I love my son/daughter/dog/goat" statuses. "I bet 10 people aren't brave enough to put this cause on their status" statuses.
Nuff said.
5) I have a few people who love me who said that FB's motto is: " Breach security first and apologize when you get caught." That no matter how private you make your account, it is never truly private. These people are "in the know" so I trust their concern. These people strongly recommended I delete my account.
6) People's feelings are bound to get hurt. I know I won't get invited to everything, and honestly right now I'm too busy to care, but seeing pictures of all your child's friends at a party that your child didn't get invited to can bring out the Mama Bear. And it's just not worth sinning over.
7) It's a waste of time. I know, I said it already, but seriously. I jump on for a quick second and spend an hour looking at photos, trying to find friends I grew up with, etc. I have to say that I have way more important things to do for an hour that would be more productive.
8) I feel guilty. I don't get on much, and when I do, I've missed 4 emails, several friends birthdays and people who wrote on my wall. I wonder if those friends think I don't care because I didn't leave a birthday message or responded to their posts on my wall. It stresses me out. I hate being rude, and to me it comes off as rude.
9) I know that I will miss the convenience of it all, but it's NOT REALLY a connection with people. I have tried to keep my friends list down to those I am really friends with, but we all have people we used to know, those we don't want to hurt their feelings so we accepted their friend requests, or those we have deleted and they found out so your re-friended them. It gets a
So what's the point?
10) It's depressing. Seeing people post "their drunk as a skunk pictures from the drinkfest they had" and then use their status to quote scriptures makes my heart hurt. Don't get me wrong- we ALL struggle with sin. I am the biggest sinner myself. But it seems many people seem to want to live two totally different ways on FB. I am really not trying to be judgemental here, honestly I'm not. It really saddens me to see people living dual lives that I once knew to be sold out in their faith.
11) Does it remind anyone of Junior High School, or is that just me?
12) It's the anti-Christ. Haha... Just checking to see if you made it to the end of my rant.
So, I am using my free time to READ more, PRAY more, and even starting a homework intensive Bible study that I never seemed to have enough time for.
Sooo, who's cool enough to join the trend? Anyone at all?
If so, we can start a book club, or GASP, talk on the phone or something ridiculously personal like that.
I know, I know... never gonna happen.
P.S. I will miss many aspects of FB, don't get me wrong. I love some of the friends that I only met through my adoption groups who are a BLESSING. I have reconnected with old friends and loved seeing their family pictures.I liked the convenience of feeling I was a part of lots of friends at a click of a button.It was a useful way for our church ladies to encourage each other or swap coupons. I am really purposing to continue those friendships through email and phone calls.
P.S.S. If you want to keep in contact with me, and don't have my email, just leave me a message here with your email (I won't post your comment) and I'll email it to you.
I just looked for the "like" button. Proof that I really should delete mine too. :)
ReplyDeleteP.S. I haven't been on since Wednesday and I haven't missed it one bit!
I am struggling with the same things. I have it one my phone now, and it's even worse. I don't think most people think about how it will affect other people to post that they went to a party that another didn't get invited to. And I don't want to be that person. I also agree that it's not really fostering friendships. There are things I would miss for sure, but I don't know that they outweigh the good. Definitely something to think about.
ReplyDeleteOur entire family deleted their accounts in the last week. So, it was so funny to come on here and read your post. It was spot-on and exactly why we left FB. Our goal as a family is to invest time in REAL people. Thanks for calling it out. Mark thinks you should find some place on the internet to publish this? Maybe one of your friends still on FB can post it there? haha
ReplyDeleteWe are getting ready to leave on the 15th for China. Here is the link to our travel blog if you want to follow along.
http://welcomehomeclaire.blogspot.com/
Have loved reading about the girls progress.
Shona
YAAAAAAAAA!!!!
ReplyDeleteAll the reasons that you listed for deleating FB are the reasons that I refused to get started. That doesn't make me smarter - just older and a bit leery. I have known of couples - one would search for old friends and all of a sudden one spouse would find a lost love, break up the family, leave to start a new life. Fun huh? I also believe that nobody but my husband and my family needs to know where I am. To further prove that point, there is a new book out by Terri Blackstock - title "Predator" if reading this book doesn't cure you of FB nothing will.
So now my wonderful Cristy is not only a great mother but is also wise beyond her years. It is hard to give up a habit, but this was a great one to give up. Love you always!